And I’m back….

So I went AWOL again, I feel like life has just been weird and constantly full of mild anxiety. We had a horrible time with hubby’s work, my work has continued and we have lost some lovely elderly people (at work, not home, not covid, just end of life stuff) and covid has had my moods swinging like a flag in the wind!

We have continued to over pay the mortgage, pay down the credit card, then added more onto it (more on that later), put on weight and moved less, then started to think about food again and move more…

We made a veg bed and are slowly filling it with gravel, then will come the soil and I can plant plants, I have been infusing vodkas, fun! Hubby now has a new job starting in a month which will see our incomes decrease, and hopefully stress levels decrease. We have booked to go back to Florida in January, have no idea when the wedding we were meant to be going to in New York is going to be so thats on pause.

Little dog developed a lump and has been lame on his front leg, apparently a fatty lump and probable arthritic changes, can do an x ray but he is such a stresshead and treatment won’t change so not doing it. He has tramadol in the mornings, metacam in the evenings, and we continue on yumove. Big dog just seems to be getting so much older, makes me sad, love them both so much! We lost our last three rescue chickens- all different symptoms and vets with no clue over two months, and adopted two more, Florence and Gertrude. They seem pretty happy and healthy, and they lay eggs! From reading, I think that unfortunately ex battery chucks don’t tend to have long lives as they have been egg laying machines. Hopefully they had a lovely two years.

Phew, that is life for the last few months! I am feeling more positive at the moment, so I am hoping to come back and start boring you all! I am also thinking of dedicating part of this blog to my issues with weight as this is a huge part of my life and difficulites and can feel complex and isolating.

We will have some actual money based updates soon too!

Hope everyone is well 🙂

Valentines Day!

Happy Valentines day! Its a funny old holiday isnt it, some love love love it and others despise it. Me, I am happy to celebrate it, any excuse to ask for wine and chocolate works for me!

Valentines has become very commercialised, it is making a lot of people a whole lot of money, but does celebrating love have to be expensive?

I know that when our incomes were smaller, we would celebrate Valentines with a meal in, a romantic walk, waiting until it was after Valentines then going for a meal so the costs are kept down. This year, we aren’t doing cards, but we are doing gifts- hubby is getting an Amazon voucher to go towards a new game and I will be getting chocolate and wine- my favourite combo!

I guess, like every other holiday or celebration, the main thing is to only spend what you can afford. Look to do free things if you haven’t got the money, date night in the house watching a film borrowed from a friend, games night with board games, a romantic walk somewhere, a picnic with items from the fridge. I am definately guilty of spending money for the sake of spending at times so this is a good reminder for me! Mostly, it is to remember that the point of today is about showing love to the person you love, not how much you can buy or spend on them!

Savings

When I look into ways to be better with money, making money work is something that comes up often, as well as ways to make money last longer.

So, savings are twofold. You can save money by not spending and you can save money by buying items for less. I am still a materialistic person. I recently kon-mari-ed my clothes, I HAD LOTS. I went through them and for each one I checked for that spark of joy, those that didn’t, I thanked them and they have been sent to Barnados Charity shop, to be joyful for someone else. For those that did, I carefully folded and placed them into drawers and the cupboard. This felt so good, but I also acknowledged that there was a lot of wasted money right there. I made a pact with myself to only buy items that are needed and I truely love from now on…I am already wavering on this. I need work trousers as I am down to one functioning pair, I need a new pair of leggings- I am down to one pair, we are off to Florida later in the year and I dont have a lot of hot weather clothes. I live in the UK its not that hot! So, some clothes are actual needs, some are wants and desires.

I went on to Evans last night. I am a plus size girl and its hard to get bargains. We live relatively rural and our charity shops dont seem to have any clothes for big lasses. I left the items in my basket, and this morning the three items in my basket are in the 24% off sale. I still like all three items as much as yesterday and my leggings are down from a tenner, so even better! Now, the other two items are lovely, beautiful, hot weather clothes- they may not suit me and I can return them if they don’t. Evans is pretty happy with that, but the fact I have waited instead of purchasing meant I got them with 24% discount, ergo, I have made a saving. I could argue with myself that not buying the items would be a better saving though!

I also found two pairs of trousers for work on Amazon for a great price, again, if they aren’t right, Amazon are pretty good about returns. One really bad thing, is that Amazon seem to be offering lots of plus size clothes for a great price. Noooooooo! My plan to manage this impulse to buy, is to leave items in my basket, see if I still like them, and then check if funds can cover it this month. If not, I will save them for later, when I have the funds!

As to the other part of saving (the not spending part) we currently use Santander and get 1.5% on the money in our current account. This is better than a kick in the teeth, but not great. I also have an M & S account, and have opened a 5% savings account. To get this rate, we have to leave the money for a year and can only pay-in up to £250 a month. This means in a year that account will be £3k and we will earn over £81 in interest. This is where that money will be working for us. Depending on my variable income, this money will either be entirely new savings or a mix of new and some other savings we already have. Making money work for us is a concept I am new to, and I am still trying to get more into this mindset, including investments etc. as well. One day at a time! 🙂

Money and Frugality

So, my relationship with money is interesting, sometimes I will deliberate for hours/days on buying something, other times it is in my basket and then winging its way to me with no thought at all.

I wonder, what it is about money and spending it, what makes me deliberate over buying item x but not item y. I have to admit, I love money, I love money shuffles- when on payday I go online to my bank and move money to different pots- once all bills have gone out I will then look at the little ‘pots’ of money we have. At the moment, we have Driveway, Holiday and Other, then whatever is left is surplus and can be used for our joint pursuits. This is all in one account so I keep a close eye on them. We get 1.5% in that account so its earning a little something at this time.

I have been looking into frugality recently- ‘sparing or economical as regards of money or food’ and ‘simple and plain and costing little’. These are two dictionary definitions of frugality, other views are about being tight, miserly and miserable. I recently discovered The Frugalwoods:

www.frugalwoods.com

These lovely folks have taken frugality and made it their metaphorichal bItch! I joined the challenge Uber Frugal Month Challenge, where you get emails from them every day over a month and you try to be a frugal person for an entire month. I decided it made sense to go from Jan payday to Feb payday, so far, I have spent £84 on starting this blog, not totally frugal, but hopefully I may be able to eventually make a little extra moolah as a sideline from this blog, therefore a possible start to more passive income. I have paid bills, this is something I have no choice over!haha. I have paid for one food shop so far, we do it on a week by week basis and I haven’t had to fill up the car yet. It has helped that I have done two 46hour weeks, so when I haven’t been working I have been too tired! I did walk to the shop and paid through the nose for bread and butter, oh and two cadburys cream eggs feel onto the counter as well- but I walked and any other shops I would have had to drive to.

One of our biggest spends is on food, we are only a family of two humans, yet we regularly spend about £80 a week on food and drinks, not including takeaways- we tend to have one a week- or if we go out for food. We have a lot of food waste, neither of us like cooking, so it can feel like a drag, or I may decide to cook and by that time the veg has gone off. We are trying to meal prep, but long days and hubby working away do sometimes mean we just can’t be bothered and will do processed easy meals. This a a two fold problem, one, it is not cost effective and two, it is not healthy.

We already shop at Aldi, we don’t tend to buy brand foods- I am still buying proper salad cream, though that is my only brand item!! This week I am going to make a vegetable pot pie, have made it before and it was soooo good. Also, can make it last a few meals, useful for when I am on long days as can take it in and hubby just heats his up at home. I will make this tomorrow. I am also considering stocking up on more frozen veg, as veg does seem to go off so quickly. Was thinking of cutting up a load of onions and then chucking them in the freezer for future use! Red onions are meant to be really good for gut bacteria, and Aldi only seems to sell frozen white onions. My food shop came to £85 this week, hubby got some bits for his car and I bought two cheap bottles of fizzy wine and creme de cassis- £6.99 a bottle but lasts a few weeks- so those will have increased the cost around £20, but need ot keep an eye on this and try to get the costs and food waste down!

Have you any ideas and tips for low cost food shopping?